Here’s a Question from a Goddess Girlfriend
I recently went out on a first date. We met for coffee and enjoyed 2 hours together. I don’t want to appear pushy or too aggressive but want to continue to explore this relationship with this guy. How do I know if he is still interested? Should I flirt more even though I want wait on sex until we get to know each other and build a friendship foundation. I am mostly inexperienced at dating and haven’t been “in the market” for a long time. Any advice? Thanks!
First off, Congrats on going on a first date!
Having a 2 hour date is definitely a positive sign. There are some signs you can watch for that will help you know if he is interested. For future dates you can watch for body language and verbal cues. I know you already went on the date but in retrospect, did he ask you a lot of questions about yourself and what you like? How was his eye contact? How did the date end?
Flirting is great! There are ways to show you are interested without overdoing it. You can touch your hair or tuck it behind your ear, touch his hand or shoulder momentarily while talking, make eye contact, laugh, smile and enjoy yourself. It’s important to be yourself. Keep in mind though not to over share or be overly exuberant. If you appear overly excited you can come across as needy. Appearing needy is not attractive.
Ultimately if he is interested he will pursue you. It’s important for women to allow men to be men, especially during the initial dating process. Think of it as a partner dance. The man leads and the woman follows. Once a relationship is established things typically balance out. If at the end of the date he doesn’t ask for your phone number, ask you for another date or say something about seeing you again he probably didn’t have a romantic connection. If on the other hand he does, this is another positive sign he’s interested. However if he doesn’t call or email making a second date within 3 or 4 days, he’s likely not interested. Bottom line, action speaks louder then words. If he is not taking the action you’re hoping for, keep looking.
xoxo
Angela, The Goddess Next Door
