Do you have what you truly want in life or are you accepting status quo?
This may be difficult to answer, however there is great value in asking this question.
A great way to find out the answer to these questions is to look at your results. Your results reflect of the quality of the decisions and actions you have made to this point. Your results are the best way to determine if you are on the right track.
Do you have the results you want, or are they off base?
I had to take a good long look at my results and this was a significant reason why I chose to move to the East Coast. If you were to take an objective look at my life when I lived in Oregon, you would see I had stagnant results.
I was stuck.
I had developed some ineffective habits of behavior, some of which I had convinced myself were working.
Now I can see more clearly what was going on. What I really wanted, got further and further out of my reach. In fact, I was very busy and I was exhausted. My friends told me I was the busiest person they knew, yet I didn’t have the money or relationships to show for it.
In the first couple of months living in New Jersey my results were dramatically different, you would have thought I’d been here for years; establishing an amazing network of personal and professional contacts, getting a managerial position with the federal government despite so many others struggling to find work, and reestablishing my coaching practice.
My experiences serve as an example to help you identify if you’ve become stagnant in your own life.
Do you have the results you want?
Take a look at your success in the following areas:
- Romantic Relationships
- Business Relationships
Do you find yourself constantly struggling to do everything and to get it all? If so, is it paying off? Are you able to enjoy what you have worked so hard for?
If it’s not paying off, ask yourself why.
If it doesn’t make sense to you, have you ever wondered why it feels like everything has to be so hard or so much work? If you consistently have unsatisfying results, what you’ve been doing isn’t working effectively.
Consider the following questions…
- Do you find yourself over-thinking a lot?
- Are you constantly analyzing and trying to figure things out?
- Are your desired results always just out of your reach?
These are signs that you’re stuck in your head.
Your mind is a tool you can use to translate your vision into goals and action steps.
If you find yourself feeling like you are working constantly, moving faster, doing more and more, and you feel like your head is spinning…you mind has become your master. Your mind houses your ego, your inner critic, that part of yourself that will drive you like a slave.
How would you like to take control back and become the master of your mind?
- What would it be like if you could go through your day, focused and taking inspired action, allowing you to be done with your work in one-half or one-third the time?
- What if you could change just a few ways of how you interact with someone you care about and have your relationship completely turn around and bring back those amazing feelings you once experienced?
- What would it be worth to have success follow you, giving you the enjoyment and love for what you do?
These things will not come effortlessly or quickly.
Think about how long it took you to get where you are in present time and develop your current habits?
The good news is that it doesn’t have to take that long to see improvement. In fact, most of my clients see or feel a noticeable change by their third session.
Most people struggle with change. There is a tendency to resist change because the outcome cannot be predicted. This causes many to cling to the familiar to avoid the fear of the unknown. When you resist change it makes it more difficult and painful.
By choosing to continue along the same path, despite recognizing it’s no longer working will bring about more suffering. If you can see this as a pattern for you, can you recall a time when you made a change and there was a positive result waiting for you on the other side?
When you are able to let go of the old ways of doing something, amazing and positive results will follow.
Is there something you know you need to change, but up until this point you haven’t been ready, willing, or able to?
When might be the right time?
If you’re ready and don’t want to do it alone, let me know how I can help!
Angela, The Goddess Next Door