May 262009
 

Q: How do you use a cock ring? Should my boyfriend use one? ~Ring around Roger, New York, New York

A: The penis is composed of three cylinders of spongy tissue surrounded by a thick membrane sheath. When a man becomes aroused, blood begins to flow into this tissue making it more firm thus, creating an erection. As arousal increases, more blood gets pumped into the tissue and the stronger the erection becomes. Once the penis is engorged, the blood may begin to leak back out of the penis and return into the body. As men age, this process can happen more quickly making it difficult to maintain an erection.

A cock ring is a ring designed to fit around a man’s penis and/or testicles. The ring prevents blood from leaving the penis, through restriction. Imagine what happens when you put a rubber band around your finger. As your finger fills with blood, it becomes more plump and tight. The restriction from a cock ring creates a similar effect giving the sense of a harder erection, a thicker penis, and a stronger orgasm. The restriction helps him delay ejaculation, remaining hard for an extended period of time and creating a longer sexual experience for both of you.

Men most commonly use cock rings when they have a difficult time maintaining an erection or when they feel they reach orgasm too quickly. That being said, their use is becoming more popular by men who want to have more intense orgasms, want to achieve multiple orgasms or simply want to last longer. Most men are unaware, but they can learn to control ejaculation with their PC muscles leading to the ability to achieve multiple orgasms. A cock ring can assist in learning this skill. Many men enjoy the benefit of prolonged playtime with their partner or when playing alone.

You can find cock rings made of many types of materials including: jelly, silicone, leather and metal. There are many varieties suitable for anyone’s preference. You can find cock rings with snaps for easy release, multiple rings with various configurations, vibrators for extra stimulation and more.

Basic cock rings are great for those who want to test the waters. These are generally one time use items and can be purchased very reasonably. If you and your partner are ready to try something more functional, I would recommend using one with vibration. Look for one made from very soft, high quality material – this way it won’t get in the way during intercourse. The vibrator is designed to stimulate the woman’s clitoris and comes from a small vibrator at the top of the ring. This provides hands-free stimulation for you, helping you achieve an orgasm more quickly and easily. Once he has started to become erect, the cock ring can be placed at the base of the penis. It can become more of a wrestling match if you wait until he’s fully engorged and the sensations he experiences won’t be as intense. Just have some fun while experimenting during this discovery process.

Some cock rings are made of a material with very little give to them. These are generally used only at the base of the penis. They can be a bit more challenging to use, although will give maximum restriction to the penis.

The larger, stretchier rings, as well as the cock rings that have two separate rings are designed to go around both the penis and testicles. This type can work more effectively for prolonging orgasm because the testicles are kept away from the body. Right before a man reaches orgasm the testicles lift up towards his body. It takes more work for ejaculation to occur because the testicles are not allowed to lift. This is why it can be effective to gently pull down on his scrotum, but a cock ring will do the work for you!

A few important tips, a cock ring should not be used more than approximately 20 minutes otherwise it can cause tissue damage. The blood needs to be reoxygenated by returning to the lungs. For an extended play session, you can remove it and put it back on once he gets a breather. I suggest you do not attempt to use a metal cock ring, unless you or your partner is an experienced user. In a situation where your partner does not lose his erection after an hour or his penis doesn’t get soft enough to remove the cock ring, don’t panic. Pull out the lube, get him good and slippery and try coaxing it off. If that doesn’t work, go get some ice, this will usually do the trick. Ice him up real good and he should deflate in no time.  Are you ready to try a new cock ring? You can shop at The Goddess Boutique where I’ve hand selected some great ones. If you are looking for something specific you don’t see at the boutique or would like a recommendation? Email me and I can recommend one for you.

xoxo

Angela, The Goddess Next Door

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