Today I’d like to start the series with a little bit about my relationship philosophy. If you look at the relationship dynamics between men and women you may have noticed they’ve shifted dramatically.
In the dating and relationship world men and women have flipped roles. Not only has it made it more difficult for singles to find and keep fulfilling relationships, I believe it has decreased the rate of people getting married as well as played a part in increasing the divorce rate.
Have you noticed this too? It seems over the past several years women increasingly have become the pursuers, taking the lead while men are taking more of a passive role as the pursued.
This gradual shift over the years has created challenges for singles, both men and women. No one knows what to do and when anymore.
I know for you ladies, it can be very frustrating when a man you’re interested in is passive and doesn’t initiate or pursue you. You probably have a hard time knowing if he is truly interested or not.
For you guys, you’ve probably gotten use to us women pursuing you and it feels great right? Not only is it less work, you also feel more confident when a woman pursues you that she’s interested. It’s just easier that way. I totally get it.
That being said…Check out this video to find out why this role reversal isn’t ideal for a long-term committed relationship for either sex.
Your Love Coach, The Goddess Next Door
PS. I’d love to hear your thoughts. Leave a comment below and if you like this video make sure to share it with your friends!
Where do these rules come from – why can’t we just be our authentic selves. But I get it – we’ve been dealing this way for a very long time. Thanks for the perspective,
I was in a relationship like this for 20 years. I left it due to his infidelity. I was always in the masculine role, taking the lead and planning things. Im not saying that I was perfect in the relationship, but this was a very frustrating part of it and I don’t want to be in another relationship like it again.
Angela, I can totally relate to what you are saying about this role by being in the “dating pool.” I currently have this issue with the majority of men that I meet. They don’t know how to pursue. I actually had a guy say to me that he was not going to “chase” me…WHAT?!? He might of been joking around, but I think he really meant it.
I can’t even count how many guy friends that I have that have no clue about when women are wanting them to walk over to them. The p perpetual wall flowers. The fear of rejection has them frozen in their traks
Yeah, I totally get what you're saying!