Have you been through a divorce and are considering dating again? You may be wondering how to know if you are ready to pursue a new relationship. There really isn’t a “good” time period to wait after a divorce to begin dating because we all have different ways of coping and grieving the end of a relationship. Ultimately it’s best to wait until you feel whole again. This means letting go of the anger and resentment you have toward your ex. Don’t try to rush this process as you are likely to attract an unhealthy relationship that won’t have much chance at success if you do. You will find yourself with a partner similar to the one you just divorced.
Take an assessment of yourself and your life. Identify things you want to accomplish, experience, and create. During your last relationship had you put these on the back burner? This is the time to take advantage of your independence as well as your opportunity to clear out the old and bring in the new. Friends are important during transition and provide a valuable support system.
Prior to dating, reestablish friendships that were important to you and may have gone to the wayside. Get out and about and make new friends. There are great online social networking sites such as Meetup and Meetin that promote friendship and give you the chance to get to know others in a casual environment. Having someone you can talk to and share your experiences with can help your reentry into the dating scene.
Commonly people struggle with ideas where to meet other singles. Finding interesting places to meet new people can be a lot of fun and adventurous. It should go with out saying the bar scene is not a great place to find love. Sex yes, love no. Here are just a few places to find someone for a potential romance.
- Coffee Shops
- Book Store
- Grocery Store
- Business networking events
- Through friends
- Meetup events
- Meetin – social group events
- Take a class at your local community college
- Attend a workshop on topic of interest
Simply take your time and have fun. There is no rush, and if you find yourself rushing take a look at what’s driving that. In a later post I will be talking about needy energy and how that influences who and what we attract into our life.
What other advice do you have for others when re-entering the dating world? Do you have other ideas for great places to meet singles? I would love to hear them!
xoxo
Angela, The Goddess Next Door
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Randy Proffitt
