Does this sound familiar?
You’re a confident, independent, fun and spontaneous woman…when you’re single.
You fall for a guy and when he starts pulling away you suddenly become this clingy, out of control, crazy woman you don’t recognize. You find yourself saying and doing things you would’ve never done when you were single.
Trust me, I know what it’s like. I use to be one of those women and it feels terrible.
Men talk about it all the time.
A guy starts dating a “really cool girl”. They start spending a lot of time together, everything seems to be going great. At a certain point the guy begins feeling secure about where the relationship is headed and so he starts spending more time doing his own thing and hanging out with the guys. All of a sudden this “really cool girl” becomes super clingy and wants to do everything together. He feels like he can no longer please her, starts backing off and distancing himself. Enter the crazy woman. He has no idea what’s going on, he feels her become Needy and he’s gone. Never to be heard from again.
So what happened?
She had an old love program that got activated, she got scared and started chasing him. In his mind she became desperate and needy. Two things men find highly unattractive.
Here’s the deal…we all have needs.
It’s not that you shouldn’t have needs but when you try to get your needs met from someone else (a guy in this case) those needs become Needy, driving you to out of control thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
We all have the capacity to become Needy until we upgrade our internal Love Programs. When we expect a man or our partner to fulfill our needs and we don’t take care of our own needs we become Needy and push the man away. Needy energy repels men. They don’t want to feel responsible for taking care of your needs. That becomes a heavy burden.
I want to help you get your needs met without becoming needy.
During my Love Detox program there is an effective process I teach to upgrade your Love Operating System. These are the steps:
1. Identify the “Need” being triggered.
2. Express the feelings the “Need” has been suppressing
3. Receive what is needed to upgrade the outdated program by fulfilling your own needs.
During Love Detox I walk you through each of these steps so you can begin the process of letting go of the blocks between you and true love.
Next post I’ll share more how this Needy energy blocks you from the love you desire.
Angela, Your Attraction Coach